Defining Yourself
Lately many things happen in my daily routine.... always busy with husband and kids, have some activities with friends...., thanks be to God, that it keeps me learning and growing
This morning... after dropping of my kids at school, I read this book while I was drinking coffee at my favorite porch. ( hehehe.... I miss another favorite place to write - #Panerabread. ).
This is just a sharing about defining yourself. For me, this is a reminder always.....
There is a question....
"How do people define themselves?",
Some do so with words.
They may say, " I am a seeker," or "I am a healer", or " I am a good friend" and so on, but what if they are less than truthful? They may claim to be compassionate, only to exhibit a mean streak; they may claim to be trustworthy, only to betray your trust.
Perhaps they can be defined by their thoughts. This can be more accurate than what they say. For instance, someone who claims to be a salesman may think of himself as a predator. But what if the self-image is at odds with reality? What if someone thinks of himself as courageous, but turns out to be cowardly when the going gets rough?
The Tao of self-definition, therefore, is not based on what you say or think about yourself. Instead, it is based on what you do. You are a seeker only if you are constantly seeking. You are a healer only if you bring others back to health. You are a good friend only if you consistently play that role. The ways you affect others determine your true identity. Your actions, speaking louder than words and thought, become the definitive definition of who you really are.
Source: "The Tao of Joy Every Day" Derek Lin, Penguin Group, New York 2011
to be continued....
